How Emotionally Agile Are You In Your Language Learning & Life?

You know what I’ve found are the 3 most difficult steps in language learning and life? Showing up – leaving the safety of our comfort zone Stepping up – to become the person you want to be Speaking up – being willing to open your mouth and let words come out I’m speaking from experience. […]

How To Stop Letting Your Fear of Failure Get In The Way Of What You Want

Everyone is afraid of failure in some way. Perfectionists in particular. Whether it’s in our language learning or public speaking, failure generally looks something like this: messing up and looking silly. saying the wrong thing. not understanding or being misunderstood. not finding the right words. not being good enough. not connecting. … We’re secretly terrified […]

The Most Common “Good Girl” Behaviours That Could Be Holding You Back

Feeling stuck? Got the impression you’re going round in everlasting circles, never making real progress? Perhaps you’re a secret perfectionist and you don’t even know it?? To help you decide, here is my list of the top 20 perfectionist behaviours (this doesn’t mean that we do all of them, all of the time, but it’s […]

Is “Good Girl” Syndrome Stopping Your Success?

“Be a good girl and….”. Remember those words from your childhood? Remember how you did everything in your power to be that good girl? Like Collecting words of praise and gold stars Doing what you were told Getting straight A’s Not making mistakes You got your head down. Gave the right answers. Coloured between the […]

What Is Your Learning Process: Shelf Development or Self-Development?

Are you over-consuming or taking a “greener”, more organic approach to your language learning? I haven’t counted the books in the above bookshelf but the total figure probably equals the number of books I’ve read over the last 5 years. In the past 12 months, I’ve greatly reduced my consumption but it took me a […]

My Journey With Perfectionism

“I’m a perfectionist.” This is the clever reply I sometimes gave in interviews to the famous question “what is your weakness”? At the time, I was proud to be seen as a perfectionist but I’ve since understood that it’s like seeing the tip of the iceberg and thinking that the tip is all there is. […]

How You Do One Thing Is How You Do Everything

Why you need ONE big goal if you’re a perfectionist language learner Perfectionists have a fixed mindset in general, particularly around areas that are often associated with “intelligence” such as business, creativity or language learning. I speak from experience as I’m a “recovering” perfectionist. What is a fixed mindset exectly? Fixed and growth mindsets are […]